Buying Vibrators For Your Girlfriend

Buying Vibrators For Your Girlfriend

Buying a present for your girlfriend can be a pain at the best of times but when you’re buying something as intimate as a vibrator or dildo most men experience a feeling of foreboding. At least the first time they do it. Of course the best thing would be to ask her outright and let her choose with you but then she wouldn’t have the surprise when she tore off the wrapping paper now would she.

Yes, we know there are a lot of other types of sex toys for women but in truth the vast majority of sex toys bought by and for women are dildos and vibrators. Because of that fact we are not going to complicate matters by talking about other more inventive but also more esoteric sex toys, let’s just keep it simple.

First of all ask yourself the following questions “Has she ever used a sex toy before, alone or with me or another partner?” and “Why am I buying this sex toy, for her or for us to use?”. It’s very important to know the answers to these questions because they will decide how you introduce your new purchase into your relationship.

And then there’s one final question that comes from your intimate knowledge of your partner “What does she prefer during sex, vaginal, clitoral or anal stimulation … or all three?”

Let’s start with her experience with sex toys. If she’s used a vibrator or dildo before then two of the most difficult issues encountered by couples experimenting with sex toys have been resolved. First you know that she’s open to the idea of using sex toys and second that she has some experience and may well have expressed likes/dislikes of certain types of toy. She may have used a dildo or vibrator on her own to masturbate, many women have, she may also have enjoyed sex toys with a previous partner. Again this is great because she will be able to express what type, size and shape of dildo or vibrator she prefers.

Bearing in mind what your partner is able to tell you about the sex toys she likes and what you know about her from your sex life you can decide which particular model would suit her best.

If this is a present for solo use then the selection is all about her. Will she be using it clitorally, or on the move, either travelling or maybe at work – yes some women enjoy a little stress relief at lunchtime you know! If this is the case a small but powerful clit stimulating vibrator can be perfect. They slip easily into a handbag, often looking like nothing more than a lipstick, and be brought out to play whenever she feels like it.

Of course being small clit stimulators are great for use during sex, she can use it while you are penetrating her, used correctly you can feel it too, just a little, so you can share in her experience.

When if comes to vaginal stimulation there’s more to take into account. Like men, women come in all shapes and sizes so buying a huge intimidating dildo for your partner, especially if they have not used one before would be a big mistake. Along with size shape plays its role. Some women simply like to feel filled by dildos or vibrator but once they have discovered their G-Spot, particularly if theirs is a little difficult to find with a straight shafted sex toy a woman will often prefer a toy with a G-Spot curve.

If it’s a vibrator instead of a dildo then where the vibration is delivered makes a huge difference. Externally of course is the clitoris and whether she enjoys a clit stimulator or the ears of a rabbit vibrator tickling her little bud you’ll want to make sure her new sex toy delivers in that department. Next consider the fact that although many women do like to feel filled by a large sex toy when penetrated the majority of nerve endings in the vagina are at the entrance so vibration and deeper inside is often wasted – the exception of course is the G-Spot and many vibrating sex toys are built with a vibrator right in the tip so she can buzz away at her G-Spot to her heart’s content.

All of the above is why for many women a classic rabbit vibrator is their preferred sex toy. The rabbit stimulates their clitoris, the rotating beads the opening of their vagina and the tip squirms around inside to rub their G-Spot. Now while this does work for many women it’s not the case for all of them. Look through any online sex shop or even your local high street store and you will see a huge number of rabbit vibrators of different sizes, shapes and configuration which reflect the variation in female anatomy. Rather than buy an expensive rabbit why not buy two cheaper specialised sex toys, say a clit vibe and a G-Spot vibrator or dildo? They can be used together or separately giving more versatility and lots more fun!

Finally, one top tip; Sex toys are a great way to enhance a relationship, being both naughty and very nice for both partners to enjoy. However don’t let her open it in front of family at Christmas, they may not recognise the thought and care you exercised when selecting her shiny new rabbit vibrator.